“Barely half of Americans over the age 18 are married, according to a new report from the Pew Research Institute. The number of couples married in 2010 dropped a startling 5 percent from the previous year, and the overall number of married couples has declined by more than 20 percentage points since 1960. The report, released Wednesday, showed that Americans are not only getting married less frequently, they’re doing so later in life. These findings mirror those observed in the UK in November, where researchers found that only 48 percent of adults there were married.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/14/marriage-rates-in-america_n_1147290.html
Like pretty much everything else in our culture, marriage has been over ‘Hollywoodized’. What I mean by that is that the entertainment industry has done a wonderful job of painting the wedding as an amazing event, but at the same time, glorifying all of the things that cause the failure of marriage. Today, many people who get married go into it with the expectation of an eventual divorce. Even if they are not aware of it, this monstrous seed that has been sued and watered more times than we can keep record of, is taking root in their minds, and for a lot, will be seen through their actions. We just don’t know if it will work…but we ‘hope’ so.
After 18 years of marriage and all of the challenges that go into that, I am convinced that we are together for just a couple of reasons:
- We love God more than we love each other
- We understood that covenants are not broken and the marriage of the believer is an expression of the covenant relationship we have with the Lord
- We decided before our beginning that divorce was NEVER an option…richer/poorer, sickness/health
- We understood that we both had flaws and that at times mine may glare more than his, and vice versa (humility)
- We choose to forgive…no matter what ❤