Staying Married

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“Barely half of Americans over the age 18 are married, according to a new report from the Pew Research Institute. The number of couples married in 2010 dropped a startling 5 percent from the previous year, and the overall number of married couples has declined by more than 20 percentage points since 1960. The report, released Wednesday, showed that Americans are not only getting married less frequently, they’re doing so later in life. These findings mirror those observed in the UK in November, where researchers found that only 48 percent of adults there were married.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/14/marriage-rates-in-america_n_1147290.html

Like pretty much everything else in our culture, marriage has been over ‘Hollywoodized’.  What I mean by that is that the entertainment industry has done a wonderful job of painting the wedding as an amazing event, but at the same time, glorifying all of the things that cause the failure of marriage. Today, many people who get married go into it with the expectation of an eventual divorce.  Even if they are not aware of it, this monstrous seed that has been sued and watered more times than we can keep record of, is taking root in their minds, and for a lot, will be seen through their actions.  We just don’t know if it will work…but we ‘hope’ so.

After 18 years of marriage and all of the challenges that go into that, I am convinced that we are together for just a couple of reasons:

  • We love God more than we love each other
  • We understood that covenants are not broken and the marriage of the believer is an expression of the covenant relationship we have with the Lord
  • We decided before our beginning that divorce was NEVER an option…richer/poorer, sickness/health
  • We understood that we both had flaws and that at times mine may glare more than his, and vice versa (humility)
  • We choose to forgive…no matter what ❤
When I first saw this video, I cried almost all the way through it.  I thought to myself, “This is what it’s all about…this is the perspective many are not given.”   So much planning and money go into the event, but not much genuine teaching goes into preparing our hearts and minds for the lifetime experience of marriage.  We are excited about the wedding day, but haven’t been taught to celebrate and embrace ALL that a godly marriage has to and will offer.  We are taught to imitate the thoughts and patterns of the world in almost everything, but we are not taught that on this narrow road of genuine Christianity the habits and customs of the world will not fit, especially in our marriages.  They will sink us like the Titanic, and we will continue to see casualties dead in the water.  It is so important that we have the proper view of marriage.  As representatives of a holy God, there’s no way to succeed without it.  As you can tell, the topic of marriage is heavy on my heart.  I hope the importance of it is weighing on you too.  Enjoy the video and pass it on!   ~Selena
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