This post is a question and answer. Some of you may have wondered or struggled with the same thing.
What do you do when you BOTH think you’re right??? This was a question a dear friend posted on Facebook yesterday, and it captured my attention as well as my compassion. Believe me when I tell you that in 18 years of marriage, I have found myself asking the same thing. The responses she received ranged from; “PRAY”, to “if you can’t resolve it dissolve it”. My response, shared below, was not as brief;
“pray for humility…Christ KNEW he was right…but he didn’t cling to his rights as God, but humbled Himself and died for us…now we are not Jesus, but we are striving to be like him everyday…somebody has to lay down their right to be right, especially in marriage, or strongholds build in our hearts that we may never overcome…♥ pray for the Spirit of Christ to rule in this situation and every other one..”
The Apostle Paul actually said it a lot better in Philippians 2:5-8…You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.
For those of us who are married, it is within the boundaries and functioning of this relationship where we will be challenged the most in this area. For our marriages to succeed…for any marriage to succeed…humility must be served each and everyday.