You are blessed among women! Inspired by a conversation with a younger mom this afternoon…

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As she stood in my kitchen with tears streaming down her face, my heart broke for her, and so many others like her, so many others like I used to be.  The tears simply let me know the depth of her internal struggle with who she is, and who she fights daily to become…with how others see her, and how she desperately wants to be seen.  The tears fall because, inside, she believes that at the age of 29 she has already failed miserably at life. She is not a millionaire with a fantabulous career.  She doesn’t live in a mansion, and she has yet to publish her first book.  Over the past 10 years she has begun a lot, and finished very little, and every vehicle they purchase seems to blow-up! And she is not…perfect.  While it pained me to hear her words of self-doubt and disappointment, it gave me great joy and peace to be able to give her words of affirmation and encouragement.  Here is a small portion of what I shared with her…

You are blessed among women. Your children’s eyes don’t judge you…they don’t call you  fat, or ugly, or black, or dumb…They look at you and wonder if there will ever be anyone who loves them like their mama. They will look back and wonder if there will ever be another whose kiss or touch seems to heal all of their hurts, whose hugs make the world seem better. They easily forgive you when you ask, and they accept you the way you are, and no matter how the world around us describes beauty, in your sons eyes you are the most beautiful.  You are the one they bring the raggediest bouquet of weeds to, and it’s your face that they cover with sugary, saliva laden kisses.  It’s your ears that ring and your heart that sings with their laughter. It’s your smile that your husband longs to see after a long day at work.  It’s your voice that soothes his nerves when he’s stressed or frustrated.  It’s your touch that causes the stress to release its hold on him.  Why would we ever care more about the opinions of those outside of our husbands and our children when their love gives us so much joy, so much peace, and so much contentment? Why would you ever look at these children as a burden, a bother, as little people who you can’t wait to get rid of, as interruptions in the pursuit of your dreams, when their innocent eyes look at you only with love? Why would you ever look at your husband with disdain or contempt or disappointment, when they simply need the help you were created to give them? Why would we ever allow ourselves to be defined by those in the secular culture or by those in the mainstream church? Why??? We are the first woman our sons will ever love, and the one all others will be measured by. We are the first woman our daughters will respect, and the standard, good or bad, that they will aspire to match and surpass. We are the women who our husbands have chosen to lay their lives down for, the women they choose everyday to lay down and wake up beside for the rest of their numbered days.   You do not have a career. You do not have a mansion. You do not have a luxury vehicle. You do not have perfectly behaved children, or pipes that don’t burst, or cars that don’t break down. You do not have perfect skin, nor a 26in. waistline.  But you have the best blessings that your Father could give you while living on this Earth…You are blessed to be a wife and a mother, and there is no greater aspiration known to man than to be trusted by God to care for and help His first creation, as well as those who come trough the womb…

You are BLESSED!

While most of this is what I shared, there were a few things added while transcribing. If you are a woman who has made the commitment to be a mom full-time and to devote your heart and energy to serving God by submitting to your husband and helping him, and by parenting, nurturing, caring for your children, know that I am praying for you. As you experience all of the upheavals on this particular journey, know that you are not alone.  I pray that these word blessed you! Let’s continue to encourage each other 😀


2 thoughts on “You are blessed among women! Inspired by a conversation with a younger mom this afternoon…

    Mr Oh said:
    November 14, 2012 at 1:30 am

    Great wow mum image.


    peacefulwife said:
    November 14, 2012 at 6:31 am

    Wow! This makes me cry happy, joyful tears! So beautiful and eloquent! THANK YOU for sharing!


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