My Husbands Facebook Post and My Response

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While going through the Facebook news feed and finding a few with content that Christ has set me free from, I’m reminded of the spiritual battle that we as followers of Christ are in. I also realize that the battle to live holy in an unholy world will become more and more intense as Christ’s return draws closer. This is not the time for us to let our guards down and relax, but time to become more intense in the spiritual disciplines of Bible study, prayer, fasting, fellowship, evangelism, etc. Remember what Jesus said in Matthew 24:12-13…Sin will be rampant everywhere, and the love of many will grow cold. But the one who endures to the end will be saved. Enduring to the end of everything Satan will attack us with (temptation to sin, persecution, etc.) is what it will take for us to experience salvation. By the power of the Holy Spirit we fight, we endure, and we win.” 


This is my husbands Facebook post from this morning, and I gained his permission to share it here.  My immediate thoughts when I read his words were to pray for him, more than I already do.  Then I began to think about us as women…as wives.   There are so many women who have been impacted by the feminist agenda who sit in our churches every week and then go home and struggle even liking their husbands, let alone praying for them.  We must understand that every aspect of our being…every ounce of our DNA is and has been disastrously impacted and altered by sin.  We have to know that as a result of the impact of sin, and the added influence and indoctrination of and by the feminist movement, we will never automatically submit to our husbands.  We will never automatically or voluntarily serve them and put their needs before our own.  We will never instinctively pray for them.  Everything in us, apart from Christ, will seek to destroy and tear them down! We will use our words and thoughts to set up stumbling blocks in their lives and strongholds in their hearts!!!! And then we will look at them as week, or shake our heads with bitter hearts at what they could have been. Apart from Christ, we are truly the daughters of Eve, and we will see the same results in our husbands that she saw in hers; a failure to lead our families, a failure to carry out the commands of the Lord, a withdrawal from Christ-centered living and teaching, passive interactions with us and our children… the list goes on.  But we are not apart from Christ, we are now one with Him.  His spirit now lives in us and empowers our choices so that we can live a life and have a marriage that honors Him. Seeing that we are being made new, can we agree to have a new attitude towards these men that God saw fit to gift to us?  Can we agree to no longer look at them as less than while thinking of ourselves as greater, wiser, smarter, more capable, and putting ourselves as first and foremost, and as the one needing to be served?  I once had a friend, who had been divorced and was now remarried,  tell me that she would never put  any mans needs before her own and the needs of her children.  She loved her husband, but she would always ensure that she was taken care of even at the risk of her marriage falling.  This is a very common mindeset among wives…christian wives… But can we be different??? Can we be wives who truly embrace and embody the character of Christ especially when it comes to our marriages and the way we treat our husbands?? Can we agree to cover our husbands in prayer more than we ever have before?  Can we truly be their HELPERS??? We cannot leave them to fight the good fight and assume everything is ok because we have our own lives and our own concerns and our own interests to look out for!!!  We are to help in every area…from the bedroom to the battlefield and every area in between.  we cannot know they struggle and NOT stand in the gap for them!!! Our marriages can’t afford for us to be selfish ladies….even if we think that our husbands are..

“Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me.” Matthew 16:24

For I am afraid that when I come I won’t like what I find, and you won’t like my response. I am afraid that I will find quarreling, jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorderly behavior.”  2 Corinthians 12:20

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3

 “Therefore, dear brothers and sisters, you have no obligation to do what your sinful nature urges you to do. For if you live by its dictates, you will die. But if through the power of the Spirit you put to death the deeds of your sinful nature, you will live. For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God.” Romans 8:12-14


Looking back at my Sweetie’s post, I am reminded that a lot of the time we are unaware of all of the temptation that our husbands face … and resist daily. When Adam sinned, sin entered the world (Romans 5:12), and while it is easy to point the finger at Adam, let’s not forget that there are three still pointing at us.

The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.” Genesis 3:6-7

What would have happened if Eve had chosen to flex her God-given influence with her husband in prayer and encouragement rather than in enticement and disobedience??? Pray for your husbands today!!!!! Whenever you read this and wherever you are stop what you’re doing and pray for your man!!!! And as many times as he crosses your mind during the day, as many times as a memory involving him puts a smile on your face, PRAY FOR HIM!!! If he completely irritates you!!!!! PRAY FOR HIM!!!!! When he walks in that door, remember that we have no idea what the enemy has thrown at him while we were apart, and let our first thoughts be how can we serve him, instead of all the things we need him to do to make our life easier.  I am speaking to myself, so please don’t think I am just issuing commands here.  As a stay at home mom it is VERY easy to get wrapped up in ALL of the goings on in my world and forget that he is battling things out in THE world.  Even if we think we know, we must admit at some point that we don’t know it all, but God does, and when we pray for them the Lord will lead us to pray for things that we may  not have ever thought of.

Ukali wrote that post just before our family time in Gods word this morning, and then he immediately left for work.  I read the post as he was leaving, and my heart began to pray.  I was already overwhelmed by a late start to the day, an ill relative, incomplete projects…life.  But everything came to a standstill because I heard his heart.  Girls, Listen with your hearts, and commit to praying for your man.


2 thoughts on “My Husbands Facebook Post and My Response

    Blair Long Allen said:
    December 14, 2012 at 5:51 pm

    This is a wonderful post Selena! I think Genesis 3:16 is so pertinent here. It says, “….Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” From that moment it became our desire to embrace the feminist movement but god designed that our husbands were to rule over us. If we will quit it and just embrace God’s design it is a lovely thing. But it’s a struggle for sooo many women. Well, every woman at some time or another.
    You’re posting good stuff here. Keep it up!


      joyfullysubmitted responded:
      December 15, 2012 at 10:32 pm

      it’s great to meet you Blair! Genesis 3:16 is defnitely pertinent here. And you are absolutely right, God’s design is a lovely thing!! There is peace and release from drama when we do things His way! I like to say that the grass is most certainly greener on this side 😀


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