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Almost 20 years later and No Regrets!

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Today is my 39th Birthday!! And I couldn’t be happier!! I woke up yesterday morning and my mind seemed automatically focused on looking back. I found myself remembering a time, almost 20 years ago, when my views were very different from what they are today.  I was 18 years old, and struggling with what I was coming to understand was not God’s plan for my life.  I was attending a very liberal college at the time.  I remember the first day of classes my freshmen year, the guest speaker was an androgynous male who paraded his 6’6 ft. frame around my Sociology class in 3 1/2 inch heels and full drag.  For my Intro to Judaism class I was told, on day one, that when the Bible said that Adam named all of the animals, what it really meant was that he had sex with all of them! And it just got worse from there!!!  My experiences were so much more than eye-opening! They were horrifying.  But I managed to get decent grades, kept my scholarship, and returned for my second, and last year, the following fall.  Had my first year been any different than what it was, I am convinced that my life choices would have been different as well.  That first year of one horrifying, world-view impacting event after another, served a wonderful purpose in the challenging, the maturing and the development of my faith in Christ.  And I would come to embrace and grieve the decisions I was going to make.

You see, I was raised like most of you.  Grow up, go to college, graduate and get a good job.  I had already mapped out where I would be and when.  I knew where my graduate studies would take place, and when I would settle down and get married, and when I would have kids.  I planned, and I planned well. And while I had been prepared to encounter a few bumps in the road. I had not prepared my heart to truly encounter God.  Now, I became a Christian prior to going away to school, and my heart was genuinely committed to Christ.  The onslaught of a culture that hated God, and loved sin, I thought, was only mildly upsetting.  It was not until I returned for round 2 that I began to be aware of what I had lost the year before, and what I stood to lose if I stayed.  Let me try to explain a little more clearly… I had been raised like most ‘Christians’; again, grow up, go to college, get a good job, then get married and have a family.  Do you notice anything missing?  No where in there was I encouraged to seek the Lord BEFORE doing any of those other things.  Proverbs 19:21 says, “You can make many plans,but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.” I never sought the Lord prior to going away to school, and no one, not my pastor or my Sunday School teachers, not my high school guidance counselor or anyone in my family, advised me to seek Him first.  A lifetime of plans were made for a life that had been ransomed by God, and He was not consulted about it at all!!!!  So imagine my surprise when he hijacks that life….my life….the one that Christ died to save…the one that I so willingly gave back to Him as an offerring….the life I was speaking about when I humbly bowed and told the Lord to use this life in any way He saw fit because my life belonged to Him now….Yeah, that’s the life He hijacked! Because I didnt’ t understand what I meant when I said that.  Everything I had learned had taught me that once I was saved, I could live my life and God would bless what I wanted to do.  I didn’t understand that because this life now belonged to Him, I needed to ask Him what He wanted me to do…and then I needed to be willing to do it….because He loved me…and gave Himself for me. Psalm 71:23 says, “I will shout for joy and sing your praises, for you have ransomed me,” and I did that, until the One who ransomed me actually wanted to direct the life he had ransomed.

Well, to make a long story short, the Lord used the second year I was away at school to patiently turn my heart fully towards Him.  I truly wanted God more than I wanted anything else, and my faith was experiencing a full assault.  Through my experiences God had allowed me to get a glimpse of what my life held if I continued to follow the course I had charted, and refused to follow where He was leading me…which was in the totally opposite direction.  For those two years I was surrounded by young and old women who had drunk from the fountain of feminism, and they were sick with it and didn’t even know.  Had I stayed, I am certain that the roots of feminism would have been driven deeper than they had been already.  The women I was surrounded by, from administrators, professors, and most of the students all said he same thing..all had the same plans…all lived on the same timeline; they were single, had no children and had no plans of having children at least until their mid 30’s, they were driven to establish themselves in the corporate market place, the need to be financially independent was a driving force, as was the mindset that says, “I don’t need a man.”  These ideologies were sown into my heart and mind not just at school, but all throughout my life. But God had different plans…His Word said different things.

As a 39-year-old woman, I can joyfully say what Romans 11:33 says; “Oh, how great are God’s riches and wisdom and knowledge! How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his ways!” Looking at my life today, I can say with certainty that had I not followed the leading of the Lord I would hae regretted it for the rest of my life.  Something in me would have known what I missed!

My plan was to get married about 15 years later than I did.  God’s plan was for me to marry the man who would be the absolute LOVE OF MY LIFE 15 months later.  My plan was to begin having children at around 35-37 years old.  Gods plan was for my first child to be born when I was 21 years old, my second when I was 23, my third when I was 25, and for us to adopt our fourth when I was 30.  My plan was to pursue my education and ultimately become a judge.  God’s plan was for me to pour all that I knew and was willing to learn into our four children in order to prepare them to stand for Christ in a culture that hates Him and not waver.  My plan was for my husband and I to be equals in everything…in education, in earnings, in authority. God’s plan was for me to marry a man who loved Him more than He loved me…a man I could respect because of his silent refusal to be led by any one other than his Lord, and that included his headstrong and outspoken young wife…a man who every time he looks at me I know he would lay his life down for me the way our Lord laid his down for his bride. I would have missed this!!!! I would have missed them!!!!! My life would be just that…MY life.  And I would have been settling for the cultures definition of fulfillment and I would have known it.

Today is my 39th Birthday! Our life is so far from perfect, but it stands at the door of amazing every day! I have no complaints….no regrets…not many things I would like a ‘do over’ on. Psalm 128:1 says, “How joyful are those who fear the LORD— all who follow his ways!”  I am so glad that I chose to ‘follow His ways!”  I struggled within myself for years after leaving school.  I wrestled with a widespread view that a woman who stays at home is a failure.  I have had people I loved and respected tell me that they were so sure my life would amount to more than just raising kids and cleaning some mans house! And it took me a while to even appreciate what the Lord had saved me from…He had saved me from myself! From my plans and a life built by my design!!!! He saved me from a life lived to meet other peoples expectations! He loved me enough to want better for me!!! And because I chose to obey Him and not the feminist voices all around me, I live the ‘better life’ that He designed.  My life is full….and my joy is too!

I hope this made sense, and sounded like more than the 2am ramblings of a contented woman! 😀 I want to encourage all of you that God’s ways are so much better than our own.  We can only see where we are…he can see EVERYTHING.  I had no idea he loved me this much.  When we disobey and do things our own way, we miss out on the tangible expressions of His love for us.  He wants to shower you with all the love He has for you….don’t you want to experience that?  Learn to love his ways, even when you don’t understand them.  Live a life without regret! ❤

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I had not planned to post this weekend, but I just had to share this when I came across it. It is perfectly appropriate for our current topic of discussion!

The Peaceful Wife

Every man has his own list of what feels disrespectful and respectful to him.  Some things are almost universally one way or the other to almost all men.  Some things are particular to your husband.  So – what matters most is what is respectful and disrespectful to YOUR man. That’s why it is important to ask him about his preferences and what bothers him and what speaks respect to him.  When things are not tense – you could ask him about some of the things on this list and get his take on the different items.  I wouldn’t ask him about all of them at once – but maybe ask about a few at a time every few days or so and REALLY pay attention to his answers.  Maybe print this out and check the ones that bother him so that you don’t forget.  You’ll need to custom-tailor your respect…

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Joyfully Submitted

It breaks my heart to think that during the earlier years of my marriage my husband may have felt like this at times.  While I don’t like to look back and think of myself as particularly ‘quarrelsome’, I was definitely a handful…and a mouthful…a ‘pistol’ if you will…at times.   While I have a great memory for details, I don’t always want to remember the details of things I’ve done or said that were not pleasant, or that did not paint me in a good light.  And my demeanor or attitude during those early years are definitely best forgotten if I want to view myself as the perpetual good, husband respecting and God honoring wife.  But my memory works well in all areas! And that means that I remember myself in the light of truth.  While my husband is not perfect, he has been consistent in his display of patience…

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As a Stay-At-Home-Mom of 18 years I have often faced the scrutiny and condemnation of those whose view of stay-at-home-moms is less than favourable. As I read this post from Lamp on Stands, I found myself thinking that I couldn’t have said it better myself. As we prepare to spend the month of October on the topic of Biblical Submission, I plan on using the last few days of September sharing the voices of other women as they address or touch on some of the sub-topics we will hit on next month 😀 Enjoy and share your thoughts 😀

Ephesians 5

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Ephesians 5

New Living Translation (NLT)

Living in the Light

5 Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us[a] and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.

Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God. For a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.

Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey him. Don’t participate in the things these people do. For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true.

10 Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. 11 Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. 12 It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret. 13 But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them, 14 for the light makes everything visible. This is why it is said,

“Awake, O sleeper,
rise up from the dead,
and Christ will give you light.”

Living by the Spirit’s Power

15 So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. 16 Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. 17 Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. 18 Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, 19 singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts. 20 And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[b] 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body.

31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”[c] 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.