Quite often the last thing we do as Christian bloggers is the thing we should do the most…let God’s word speak for itself. We are told to add images to hold the reader’s attention and not to write lengthy posts. We expound and explain and add in our stories and experiences, but none of these are known to change or soften the heart of a rebellious man or woman. In most cases, though not all, they work to mimic the soft shoe approach of the church today towards evangelism via entertainment.
In an age where it is very easy to be discouraged at the state of those who lay claim to the Body of Christ but who do not live for Christ in any area that is visible, we have seen the uprising of a new era that promotes a lack of accountability and biblical accuracy. ‘The ‘Don’t judge me’ era has birthed unbelieving lifestyles that, in ages past, have brought the wrath of God upon humanity, but today only delivers more inaccurate sermons on grace! If you were to join us for our family study time in the mornings, right now you would find us in Isaiah 15-16, and chapter 6 of Eric Ludy’s Bravehearted Gospel. During our morning discussion today on morality and the lost commitment to church discipline, my oldest son, Isaiah, asked the question, “How do you get your name back from that?”, referring to a church leader or ‘Christian’ living in sin and refusing to repent. Our response was not in regards to re-building your name, but how to maintain a good name from beginning to end…below is what we shared with our kids…PLEASE meditate on this…write it down..commit it to memory…As believers, the Spirit of the Living God now lives in us!!!! If the instructions being issued to the Ephesian church, and every other body of believers, were not possible, they would not have been given!! We can live lives that honor him!!! Do we genuinely want to, is the question…
“With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused. Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity. But that isn’t what you learned about Christ. Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy. So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God. For a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey him. Don’t participate in the things these people do. For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true.Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret. But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them, for the light makes everything visible.” Ephesians 4:17-31-5:5-10
I believe nothing else needs to be added…
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This, of course, is the final repost of 2012. I wanted to take us into 2013 with this mindset; IT”S A FIIIIIGHTTTTTT TO LIVE GODLY!! Submission is involved in EVERY aspect of Godly living…Do we want to live lives that honor God?? Very simply…Submit.
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” 2Corinthians 5:3-5
I spoke to a friend this evening, and as we spent time encouraging one another we both confessed that, even though we are submitting on the outside, it is more difficult at times to submit and honor on the inside…in our thoughts. I just wanted to share before turning in that, in case you didn’t know it, if we are fighting our flesh and the world system in the area of submission to God, and submission to our husbands, we are involved in the fight of our lives ladies!!! This is not for the faint at heart or those easily weakened in the knees!! It’s not for those who think they want to make a commitment, or think submission is the next movement and just want to be included!! It will take resolve and consistency and commitment and stamina!!! This is not a sprint, but a glorious marathon, where we get to die a little more each day to the old us,(and a lot on some days) that was shaped and chiseled and hardened by sin, and come alive to the new us, made soft and pliable in Christ’s likeness again. What does the above verse say?? “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh!!!!!!! (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds).” Strongholds must be pulled down!!! Our thought life must change!!!
“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.Therefore, God elevated him to the place of highest honor and gave him the name above all other names, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” Philippians 2:3-11
If you are fighting this battle in the arena of your thought life, take courage!!! You are not alone! I want to share a couple of things to help you on the battlefield…and remember, we are sisters in this. If the enemy seems to be one up on you,
1. Close your mouth (Ecclesiastes 10:14, Proverbs 29:11, 12:23, 14:33, 17:28)
2. Pray (Psalm 141:2, 143:1, Proverbs 15:8, 15:29)
3. CHOOSE not to be selfish
4. Be HUMBLE
5. THINK OF OTHERS as better than yourself
6.DON’T LOOK OUT FOR YOUR ON INTERESTS
7. Take a GENUINE interest in your husbands life/issues/concerns
8. Have the SAME ATTITUDE AS CHRIST
9. Begin to MEMORIZE and RECITE Gods Word
9. TAG us on the Facebook page and just shout PRAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!! And we will know what to do 😀
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It breaks my heart to think that during the earlier years of my marriage my husband may have felt like this at times. While I don’t like to look back and think of myself as particularly ‘quarrelsome’, I was definitely a handful…and a mouthful…a ‘pistol’ if you will…at times. While I have a great memory for details, I don’t always want to remember the details of things I’ve done or said that were not pleasant, or that did not paint me in a good light. And my demeanor or attitude during those early years are definitely best forgotten if I want to view myself as the perpetual good, husband respecting and God honoring wife. But my memory works well in all areas! And that means that I remember myself in the light of truth. While my husband is not perfect, he has been consistent in his display of patience and kindness towards me, at times doing so in the face of my anger and rage. I was young…and headstrong…and feminist…and foolish…and today and everyday I thank God that I am forgiven. While I was not an absolutely horrid wife, meaning I did laundry and cleaned and cooked and made the beds and …etc, I was not forgiving, or patient, or gentle, or kind if things did not go my way! I was a brat!!!! And he loved me….and he waited for me to grow up…and he grew up with me! 😀 And he understood, as I came to understand, that my heart had not truly submitted to God and His will for my life, and that I was taking that out on him. My desire, since I committed my life to Christ at the age of 16, has always been to live a life that was pleasing to the Lord. My fear since that time, has always been that I will fail. I have struggled for 23 years to become the woman He created me to be, even if I did not agree with Him. That’s why it was a struggle. Because I did not agree! And while I loved my husband from the beginning, at least based on the way that my 21-year-old mind perceived love, I had other plans for my life…and they were interrupted…and I was angry… But I didn’t really notice for a long time that I was taking it out on him. Now, I know the title of this post is “I was a Terrible wife”, and I was quite often, but my heart was to be a godly one….and it still is. But this was not natural for me. Again, I had the physical skills, but I’ve had to learn to develop the heart…and before I could develop a true heart for my husband, I had to develop a true heart for God, and a willingness to accept His will for my life.
I was a closet, unconfessed, unacknowledged feminist, and my feminist heart was at war with a desire to serve God within those standards. I wanted to love, honor, and respect my husband, but had unknowingly embraced the culture that taught that men were weak and not worthy of respect. I wanted to genuinely appreciate him and his endeavors to provide for our growing family, but I had subconsciously bought into the false teaching that, as a woman, I was complete all by myself, and did not need a man to do anything for me. I said I loved him, but I treated him with disdain at times, and my far-reaching vocabulary was used to do what my hands could not. I looked good on the outside, but inside was the heart of a woman who had no idea how to become anything other than what I was. While my wonderful husband insists that I was not that bad, I can’t give myself a break on this. I do not want to paint a picture of myself with an ethereal glow around the fringes and a halo above my head, and I don’t want you to do that either. Self-evaluation is a wonderful thing. And if we are believers, it is a necessary thing:
Examine yourselves to see if your faith is genuine. Test yourselves.
Surely you know that Jesus Christ is among you ; if not, you have failed the test of genuine faith.
2 Corinthians 13:5
Knowing that our marital relationships are to mirror the relationship Christ has with his church, how much more does this apply to our marriages than just to our Christian conduct in our church circles? The result of an ultimate decision to truly cultivate the heart of a godly wife, I am no longer a feminist who wears the mask of a Christian wife and mother. I genuinely love, honor and respect my husband, and I do it joyfully. When talking to young wives caught in a similar struggle to the one I’ve described, I tell them that in this case, the grass really is greener on this side!!! I would not go back to the me I was before I truly submitted to Christ for ‘all the tea in China!” 😀 There is more than freedom, there is abundant life found in loving and being loved the way God designed…and there is genuine joy. The things I viewed as drudgery before are now looked at with an appreciation. While this post may not hit the bullseye for everyone, I have full confidence that there are some who will read this today or somewhere down the road, and it will meet you where you are. I have been blessed with an amazing man to spend the rest of my life with. He has worked hard for the past 18 years to provide for us, and to make it possible for me to be at home training and educating our children. When he comes home from work, I take joy (even when I’m tired) in serving him. I take joy in making sure he has clean underwear and socks …and it breaks my heart when I am behind on any laundry but especially his laundry. I love cooking for our family and preparing his plate for dinner (we actually compete on this one :D), and bringing it to him as he sits and unwinds while talking to the kids. But guess what? He looks for ways to serve me as well…and we do it joyfully!!!!! We didn’t start out this way. We were two selfish kids having kids when we got married (I truly believe I was far worse). But God is faithful, and He met our desire to have a marriage that honored Him by empowering us to deny ourselves and pursue righteousness. The Lord also knew that I was desperate not to pass these perspectives to my daughters. The end result, is that we love God more than we do each other. Our primary goal is to please the Lord in everything we do and say, and that begins with how we love and treat each other. Do we have bad days? Yes! Are there times we just want to scream?? Absolutely! But we’ve learned to be gracious, and compassionate and kind……and very, very, VERY forgiving!
Were you born in the wake of the feminist movement AND post Roe v. Wade like I am? Did you find it difficult to get rid of the ideologies and mindsets once you came to Christ or were married? Have you struggled in some of the same areas I described here? Well, of course, by now you know you’re not alone. Feel free to leave a comment and let me know some parts of your personal journey. The Conversation of the Month is SUBMISSION and we’ll be here everyday 😀 Let’s continue to encourage one another! 😀
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I was extremely blessed to have spent Friday afternoon with two beautiful young wives. Their love for God and desire to live lives that are pleasing to Him were apparent in the sheer amount of energy it took to focus while nursing babies and changing diapers and quieting little ones. I smiled to myself as I remembered the early years of my marriage when my children were babies…and small…and loud…and unconcerned with the needs of anyone else on the planet…and my husband was working…and I was fighting valiantly to love God and obey His Word…and I was earnestly trying to learn how and what it meant to love my husband and my children. During those years I really could have used an older woman or two whose joy it was to walk alongside younger women after the model given to us in Titus 2.
I have been searching my heart in an effort to find my voice on this blog, and I have written about various things. But the thing that causes my heart to ache is the same thing that caused me to begin this blogging journey, and it’s the same thing that compels me to write today; My heart aches for the women today who are like I was when I got married. I truly desired to honor God and my husband, but I HAD NO IDEA how to do that. I remember when Ukali and I went to a relative, who is a pastor at a local church, for some premarital advice before the actual ‘I Do’s’, and the relative made the comment that he felt we were very compatible and only foresaw on potential issue. I braced myself and was prepared for him to say anything other than what he said. His observed potential issue was…Yep! You guessed it…ME!!!!!…. and the likelihood of me experiencing difficulty and resistance to submitting to my husband’s God-given authority. Well, needless to say, I was a little more than moderately offended…and afraid that he was right! And guess what? He was!!!!
But guess what else? My story doesn’t end there, and hopefully, neither does yours. Let’s tell our stories together. During the month of October we will be looking closely at the word SUBMISSION. I will be speaking directly to questions/concerns you have in regards to the Biblical model of submission in marriage. Take a few minutes and message me your questions, concerns, struggles and victories in this area. We would love to hear from you. Submission of questions/comments can begin immediately!! JOIN THE CONVERSATION 😀
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“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes;fear the Lord and shun evil.” Proverbs 3:5-7
This, again, is a passage of scripture that we don’t typically hear used in the context of our marriages, but it is SUPER applicable. I see a lot of marriages where we appear to trust God with everything BUT our relationship with our husbands. We apply worldly thinking and secular methods of conflict resolution to what is a holy, sanctified (set apart exclusively for Gods use) union. I hear a lot of, “I trust the Lord, but……”. That little word, but, cancels out that huge word, trust. And it communicates more than we think it does, the absence of genuine faith in this area. I want to share with you several passages of scripture that I truly believe will enhance your marriage if applied… My wonderful husband always tells me, whenever I am discussing these issues of submission and there is tension in the conversation, that God’s Word can explain and hold our hearts accountable better than I can. “Just stick to Scripture, Sweetie”, he says. “If their hearts won’t submit to His Word or His command, they are probably not one of His daughters.” In my heart of hearts I pray that you are truly a daughter of the Most High God, and that as one of his girls, your heart is set on honoring and obeying Him by submitting to His Holy Word, and bringing your heart and life completely under His authority…especially in the are of submitting to, honoring, and demonstrating respect for your husband… These verses are in no way exhaustive, but they are a good start…and they are wonderful to have hidden in your arsenal so that when the enemy of flesh rises up, you can put him to death!
When facing financial struggles:
“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” James 1:2-4
When facing temptation:
“And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.” JAmes 1:13-15
When struggling to close our mouths and just listen to our husbands…especially when we are angry:
“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.” James 1:19-20
“If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless.” James 1:26
When struggling with obeying all of Gods Word and not just the parts that we like or agree with:
“But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.” James 1:22-25
When we find ourselves esteeming other men as better than our own husband because they have a ‘better’ job, drive a ‘better’ car, their family lives in a ‘better’ neighborhood….:
“My dear brothers and sisters, how can you claim to have faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ if you favor some people over others? For example, suppose someone comes into your meeting dressed in fancy clothes and expensive jewelry, and another comes in who is poor and dressed in dirty clothes. If you give special attention and a good seat to the rich person, but you say to the poor one, “You can stand over there, or else sit on the floor”—well, doesn’t this discrimination show that your judgments are guided by evil motives?” James 2:2-4
When we are dissatisfied with how the Lord has provided for our needs through our husbands and we just think we could live a better life if he made more money:
Listen to me, dear brothers and sisters. Hasn’t God chosen the poor in this world to be rich in faith? Aren’t they the ones who will inherit the Kingdom he promised to those who love him?. James 2:5
When we say that we are believing God to rescue us from the consequences of our disrespectful attitude and dishonoring acts towards our husbands, but it just isn’t happening…he’s stil angry, and hurt and withdrawn, but we’ve apologized and he should be able to move past it…:
“What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions? Can that kind of faith save anyone? Suppose you see a brother or sister who has no food or clothing, and you say, “Good-bye and have a good day; stay warm and eat well”—but then you don’t give that person any food or clothing. What good does that do? So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless. Now someone may argue, “Some people have faith; others have good deeds.” But I say, “How can you show me your faith if you don’t have good deeds? I will show you my faith by my good deeds.” You say you have faith, for you believe that there is one God.Good for you! Even the demons believe this, and they tremble in terror. How foolish! Can’t you see that faith without good deeds is useless? Don’t you remember that our ancestor Abraham was shown to be right with God by his actions when he offered his son Isaac on the altar? You see, his faith and his actions worked together. His actions made his faith complete. And so it happened just as the Scriptures say: “Abraham believed God, and God counted him as righteous because of his faith.” He was even called the friend of God. So you see, we are shown to be right with God by what we do, not by faith alone. Rahab the prostitute is another example. She was shown to be right with God by her actions when she hid those messengers and sent them safely away by a different road. Just as the body is dead without breath, so also faith is dead without good works.” James 2:14-26
I am going to refrain from expounding on these verses and just let them speak for themselves. I just want to say that if our hearts are truly set on submitting to God in ALL areas, there’s no better roadmap than His unfailing word! READ THE BIBLE LADIES!!!!! LOVE GOD AND HIS STATUTES!!!!! LIVE OUT/OBEY WHAT IT SAYS!!!! In all areas!!!! We can’t continue to sit in church on Sunday,saying ‘Amen’, but hating our husbands in our hearts and with our actions….We’ve got to choose. decide, RESOLVE to be better…to just submit!!! Just quit fighting! Trust God or we suffer and we cause the generational suffering of so many… I will leave you with this video from John Piper. Have a GREAT weekend, know that you are loved, now go and LOVE YOUR HUSBAND!!
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As the year draws to an end, and I focus on improvements and adjustments to this blog, I will be re-posting the most viewed/commented on posts of the year. This is the first re-post of the week. I began working on this blog in December of 2011, and the first published post was in January 2012. Over the past year Joyfullysubmitted.com has had over 7,000 views, and has challenged and impacted the views of many women, while encouraging hearts to submit to the Lord and serve Him with all of our hearts. As we look forward to what the Lord has in 2013, enjoy these reposts. Look for new content and updates coming soon! Thank you for your support! It means a lot to me 😀 ~Selena
I woke up this morning thinking about what my life would be like if I had chosen to live it my own way. I don’t think I would be able to truly appreciate the joy that I have found in knowing that I can love God fully, but only because he first loved me, and gave himself for me (Galatians 2:19-21). Believing that he truly loves me is what enables me to trust him with my life daily, and to surrender to his plans, even when they differ from my own (Isaiah 55:8). In the same way, it is my husbands love for me that enables me to trust him with my heart daily, and submit (sometimes more humbly than others) to his God-given authority in our home. If you have read some of the other things on the blog, you know that this whole submission thing was not easy for me to do, but as much as I struggled against and resisted this often misunderstood and erroneously defined word, I could not continue to struggle against and resist God’s holy and inerrant Word (Ephesians 5:22, Colossians 3:18). As a young girl I would see or hear things said by my peers or family members that made it seem like our submission as women was dependent upon whether or not our husbands were “good”. This perspective caused some confusion for me, and actually was used to inwardly justify my resistance in obeying God in this area. If my husband made a mistake or disappointed me by being…human, then that was all the reason I needed not to submit. I mean, come on! He obviously needed to get everything right before God would expect me to do that, right? I shake my head in sadness as I remember my attitude towards Ukali at times…the pride…the arrogance of heart…all the while trying to do all the things that “good” wives were supposed to do. I didn’t understand then that I could be submitted on the surface, but live in active rebellion in my heart, but that is exactly what I was doing, and I did it for years. Some of the things I found myself thinking were definitely NOT submitted to Christ or committed to the success of my marriage. This had been the example set for me by so many who had impacted my life: women in church – in my family – it seemed like it was women everywhere. They may have made dinner for their husbands, or did the laundry with a smile, but the conversations when the men were not around presented another perspective. I frequently witnessed a lack of respect and honor demonstrated towards men, and I saw marriages end in divorce. And the men, the fathers, the husbands slowly over the years disappeared. So what do we do? What do we do when everything around us teaches us to hate or despise them? What do we do when some of us have been taught by the culture for generations to disrespect and dishonor men? What do we do when women are taught to despise the very things God created us to cherish, such a being a wife and a mother? What do we do we are taught to despise all things feminine, and so many of our men are raised and grow to display an extreme distaste for their own masculinity. How can this be remedied???? Well, to start with, become your husbands’ slave. That’s right…you heard me correctly! Willfully, voluntarily…joyfully…become his slave. I have learned, and am learning everyday, that in order to find genuine joy in submitting to God and my husband, I must humble myself, to God first, then to my husband, and even in other relationships. 1 Corinthians 6:9 tells us that, “Even though I am a free [wo]man with no master, I have become a slave to all people to bring many to Christ.” Whoa!!! All people? Does that include my husband? Is he a person? 😀 Then yes, that includes him. We are free to do what we choose, but as Christian women shouldn’t we choose to obey God? Shouldn’t we choose to respect our husbands? When speaking to the Phillipian believers’ Paul said it this way; “Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges, he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.” (2:1-8) So, ask yourself, “are we greater than Christ?” He could submit to God, but we don’t have to? Would God expect his only Son to obey him in all things, but give us a pass on this one? Of course not! If Christ could put on flesh to save us, surely we can crucify our flesh, humble ourselves, choose not to look out for our own interests, in order to serve them.
Now does submitting mean that I cease to have a brain, and just live for his happiness and his needs? NO it doesn’t. John Piper said it best, “Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership, and to help carry it through according to her gifts.” (We will talk about this more in an upcoming post) That definition gave me great comfort last week when I heard it. Understand that I am not Joyfully Submitted at all times, but that is the desire of my heart…I realize now to be joyfully submitted to my God and my man go hand in hand…But what if he wasn’t godly? What if he did not love me the way Christ loved the church…as difficult as it may be I would still have “a divine calling” to respect him and honor him as the head of our family (1 Corinthians 7:12-16). Not only would I be called to do this, but so would you. God knows our hearts and will reward us accordingly. Let’s pray earnestly that we would joyfully develop hearts to submit.
Praying for all of us,